A message from Sandy. Sometimes we are to wrapped up in ourselves to notice what is happening around us. We look at the world through “me-tinted” glasses. How does this affect me? What’s in it for me? Is anyone listening—-What about me?

 The trouble with our “me-tinted” glasses is they don’t allow us to see very far, and it can cause us to misinterpret the actions of others as a result. It may distort our view as well, for example, if resources are poured into one area/person/project, is that just so you can’t have them?  Was a decision made because no one cares about what you think? Well here’s the news–it’s not about you–time to get over yourself!

In our self-confident, individualized world where we may feel we are the center of the universe, we’ve been trained to believe in ourselves, to follow our passion, to look out for number one. All of which is great–to a point. When in fact,  the best way to look out for number one, is to look out for everyone else.  To put yourself last, to be humble, and to help others. If you make this a habit, the return will be significantly greater than all the grabbing,and self-promoting you can personally do. Instead your behavior will cultivate ambassadors ready to  support and endorse you.

So the next time you start looking at the world with your  ”me-tinted” glasses, stop for a moment. Ask yourself, could there possibly be another reason why this decision or action was taken that didn’t revolve around me? Is causing a fuss really going to help my cause? Are you using all your powers of empathy to put yourself in the shoes of your teammates? Will this matter in 3 months? Could this be a chance to exhibit some maturity and self management? What don’t I know?

You are important. You do matter. But you are not alone. Decisions are complex. It is likely you do not have all the information. And sometimes we have to be humble, loyal, and patient. You can do that right?